Good Morning Ladies!!!
How are we???? :-)
After 8-9 years of being out of the dating game, I find it difficult to re-enter the scene. One of the reasons I find it extremely difficult has to do with the word "GAME". I am simply too old to be playing games! Why must we as women change who we are to get a date(well a "good" date)? Why must we appear to be weaker than we are? I know, I know the man has to feel wanted and needed. Growing up with a SSBF(Strong Single Black Female) made this task difficult for me in the beginning. Let me stop, I still find this challenging!!! I have to actually think about it as I go through the motions of making the man feel secure. The fact that I am hard headed doesn't help:-)
I blame my mommy....I was her baby and she spoiled me rotten:-) The world was about me until the day her journey on earth ended! Do you know she would worry about me as she laid in the bed slowly slipping away? I would climb in the bed with her every time I drove to Baltimore to see her until her side began to ache. When I could no longer lay beside her, I would pull the chair as close as I could and put my head on her bed as she rubbed my head. This wasn't something we did because she was ill. Throughout my life I would climb in the bed and snuggle with my mommy! We would just talk or enjoy a silent moment together. That was the SAFEST place I could be at any given moment. I didn't have to be strong. I didn't have to be weak. I simply had to be her baby.
I guess that is what I am looking for in a partner, JUST SIMPLY BE ME.....To enjoy the silent moments....To escape reality and enjoy the comfort of his arms. TO FEEL SAFE!! Not judged...No expectations...Just simply be.....
I believe this is why many people stay in the relationship they are in. It's safe. At least you know the person and man the thought of dating is scary!!!!! The thought of starting over again is frightening but I know with God's help all things are possible!
Much Love & Support